Moving in with your partner is something that deserves careful forethought. While it might be tempting to “jump in head first”, that is not desirable. And really, it is best to have a plan in place and to do certain things before actually moving in together. There are not only practical things to sort out, but also some things you should deal with on the emotional side. Only then will you be fully ready for the next step in your lives. Moving in together does not have to be the big bad wolf – with enough planning, it can prove to be as innocuous as a lamb. So, here are some tips on how to move in with your partner.
Get “the talk” out of the way before moving in together
You should talk openly about expectations, about practical things and, yes, about rules before moving in together. Why? Well, any lack of communication and understanding can only lead to strife later. On the other hand, healthy communication leads to picking out the color of your wedding cards in the future. That is why a good, lengthy talk is necessary.
Here are some things you may want to discuss with your partner before you take that step.
Talk about how you both like to maintain your living space
It’s best if you learn about your partner’s living habits right away. Then, you can discuss them and see what you’re both comfortable with. Talk about chores, about whether they’re clean or messy. Also, discuss whether they would have a problem with something and present your point of view. Pet peeves are also something that can definitely cause a strife when you’re living together with your partner.
Talk about the daily routine
You may not even be aware of the fact that you and your partner both have daily routines. However, before moving in together, you should definitely know what your partner’s schedule is. Talk about whether you’re morning persons or night owls. Most importantly, learn how to compromise so that you don’t clash.
The money talk is necessary before moving in together
Yes, no one likes talking about money. It’s stressful, awkward and genuinely uncomfortable. But, you need to have an honest talk about sharing living and household expenses. Also, you should discuss saving, vacation, gifts, everything that comes to mind. You should know how your partner spends money – whether they think about bills, or if they’re a spendthrift. This is one of the most important things to do before moving in together.
Discuss the practical side of things before moving in together
Now, once you’re done with “the talk”, you can focus to more practical issues. These include the actual process of moving – how you’ll move, what you’ll do with your things, etc. Here’s how to make moving in together easier.
Your place/new place/their place?
One of the biggest decisions you will have to make is – which place will be your new home? When looking at the options, take everything into consideration. For instance, perhaps your partner’s place is closer to your workplace. Or, perhaps your rent is significantly lower. Or you both may not even like your current apartments, so you’ll decide to look for a new one. This is quite possibly the most important thing to discuss before moving in together. So, sit down and talk about it at length.
Decide how you’ll move
This boils down to deciding on whether you’ll move by yourself or you’ll hire professionals. If you have experience with moving by yourself, it will be easy to do that again. You know how to go about it. However, if you’re unsure whether you’ll be able to do everything, it might be time to call professionals. However, when looking for moving professionals, look locally. For instance, if you’re moving from/to New York, you can always hire local moving experts to get the job done in the best and simplest way. You won’t have to think or spend too much time on the moving process, because there’ll be someone to do it for you.
Decide what you’ll do with your things
When you’re moving in together, it’s time to take a look at what you both have. It is likely that you’ll have many duplicates between the two of you. And there’s no need to pile them up. Who needs two coffee tables or two sofas? Especially when your new apartment doesn’t have enough space for it all. That is why you should make a list of things that you’re not taking with you to your new apartment. And then, there are a few things you can do with them:
- Sell them. This is actually a way for you to earn some extra cash, if you need it. You can organize a garage sale or go on eBay, Craigslist, or even Facebook to sell them. There are many people that are now buying furniture online, which can be your window.
- Donate them. There are various charities that will even come to your home to pick up the things you’re trying to donate.
- Throw them away. If you have things that are completely unusable, then it’s time to toss them into the dumpster.
- Store them. If you haven’t figured out what to do with your duplicates yet, you can store them at an affordable price until you do. It’s easy and they’re usually kept in controlled conditions. Might be worth a try.
Decorate your home in a way that suits you both
Yes, sometimes one (or even both) of the people moving in together don’t want to bother with decorating. However, that is the final step to make your new place feel like home. Wherever you’ve decided to move, it’s important that both partners feel comfortable.
Now, this can mean some simple things, like picking out curtains that you both like, or putting pillows everywhere. It can mean big things, like picking out a new sofa. Just don’t be afraid to discuss things that will lead to you and your partner feeling at home. Because that, ultimately, is what you’re making – a new home.
If you put thought into moving in together, if you discuss the various facets, that is the right path to a perfect moving in story. Simply take your time in order to do it the right way. There’s no rush. After all, this is an important step and should be taken sensibly.