If you want to have sex, make sure it is done right. And if its kinky sex you want, make up your mind to go as far as you can handle. No matter what option you choose, it is imperative to have all the supplies you need so that you don’t have to skip any style you want to try because you don’t have the basic needful.
When we talk about BDSM, some people might feel it’s taking sex too far, but if you can’t explore something you love in all the possible ways, where’s the fun in it? Besides, who does boring regular sex these days when you can do more and get more results?
BDSM brings out your inner bad guy, and when you start, you begin to realise how much of a talented actor you are and how you could audition for the role of a villain in an action movie.
Whether you are looking to be the dominant or submissive the most important thing is to derive as much pleasure as possible from what you are doing, and we are here to help you get started as a kinkster. This article features a list of 10 BDSM sex toys you must have as a beginner.
Blindfolds
Blindfolds could easily pass for the easiest to find kink gear. If you do not want to purchase one, you can improvise but having a blindfold in your treasure chest is a must for every dominant in the BDSM game.
Why a blindfold? When you take away the ability of your partner to see, it means blocking a sense. And when one sense is blocked the others are heightened which is excellent for both the sub and the Dom. The blindfolded partner feels everything the Dominant does more than when she or he can see.
The anticipation and suspense are healthy because it makes the experience much more interesting. Another great thing about blindfolds is that they are safe and comfortable to use compared to other BDSM gears. Once they are tied in an easy to remove way and the blindfolded partner is in a safe place free of sharp objects or other dangerous items then its game time.
Bondage Tape
Bondage tapes are your go-to option if you want to explore restraint. These tapes are made from PVC, so they are less likely to hurt your partners like duct tape or other tapes that are adhesive based. Bondage tape does not stick to the skin; it only sticks to itself.
That way it holds form but doesn’t bond to the surface or body hair of your submissive. Unlike ropes and other restraint items, bondage tapes are easy to use and do not require any unique skill or tutorial on how to use them. Once you wrap them around the body parts you choose to bond together, there’s no other particular thing needed.
But, you have to be careful when tying up your partner, so you do not disturb the flow of blood in the body. Try not to twist the tape or pull too hard when tying your partner up. Scissors should also be in your possession, so you can quickly cut of the take when you sense any discomfort or when it’s time to rest.
Hitachi’s magic wand
The Hitachi’s magic wand was created initially to be a back massager, but with time it became something more. Today this magic wand is arguably one of the best vibrators you can ever have.
New models and versions have been created to help give maximum pleasure to users of different genders (including transgender and cisgender women). With the latest version called the magic wand rechargeable, masturbation has become an excellent time. The rechargeable version allows you to use it on yourself while choosing how you wish to be stimulated.
The options of stimulation range from mild vibration to intense pounding, so you don’t have to worry about a thing. Every kinster must have one of these because it allows you to stimulate your sub without using your sex organ. You get to watch their reaction as you deny them orgasm after stimulation or even vibrate them till they squirt all over you.
Collars
Collars are a must have it you must role play. This beautiful and sexy neckpiece can make you have a surge of Dominate feeling once you have them on your submissive.
Collars are cute and sexy, and you can choose to leave it simple or go extra when using collars. For some people, they prefer to purchase one from a pet store, but it is better to buy from a kink store as they have better and safer options for you to choose from.
Some collars come with extra features like a lock and key or spikes. Interestingly, collars have become like a fashion item as people wear them as chokers these days, so you can have one to visit a partner at work and send them an indirect message.
Dildo
Sometimes, people attach dildos to a strap-on to spice things up when there is the need for anal penetration or vagina penetration. Lubricants must be handy though if you want to insert a dildo into a vagina or anus.
Apply a generous amount of lube around and on the area to be penetrated as well as on the dildo so that you do not bruise your partner or cause other forms of discomfort. If you are going to be sharing a dildo, make sure to clean it properly before passing it on for health reasons.
Harness
For a lesbian couple, owning a tackle can be so much fun when it comes to penetrative sex. Wearing a harness with a dildo mounted on it gives a dom a very superior look and makes a sub satisfied with the fact that she is going to get all the penetration she wants.
Also, in cases where the penis has been used for vagina sex, and you want to move on to penetrate the anus, it is healthier to use a dildo hooked to a strap-on.